Bloggers, please, HELP ME!

I didn’t plan to post today, even though I really am enjoying this posting every day thing…. I would like to keep that up.

I’m kind of getting overwhelmed, with everything. Giving the new people who have followed my blog something to read, even if it’s really nothing. Following up on comments and blogs that I need to follow up on. Finding the time to clear my head and process the jumbled state that it is in. And all of the outside stuff, the typical conundrums of daily life.

I made a half-assed joke the other day in a comment about my internet going down. I looked around my home and was like, “WOW!  Where has the wife/mother of this house been!?!” Then the internet came back up…. It wasn’t really a joke though.

Quite frankly, my brain needed a break today. My brain, and my heart. Plus, I’ve got like two days to finish up with a mess of college registration stuff and getting my sons school registration done. (These are both things that are only half my fault they weren’t taken care of sooner.)…. Yet, here I am… blogging. (So much for my self discipline, huh?! lol)

Before THAT post was published, I was hinting at some real life stresses going on. Swirling around in the mess that is my mind at the moment, I have known that I need to follow up on that. I’m not a fan of leaving you all hanging. (If you’re “new” to my blog, this one pretty much sums it up for ya, Get Further Faster, Pick up that Ball and Chain.) Plus there was that whole post about consistency, and the Blogging 101 stuff, and on and on and on.

I feel like there are a lot of lose ends…. Remember Paul Harvey and his “the rest of the story”. Well, I am a FAN of the rest of the story. Not often do you ever hear the rest of the story…. It drives me crazy!!!

You hear about the moment, the struggling mother that needs help, the horrible crash on I927, the man that got pulled out of a burning building barely alive. But, you NEVER hear the rest of the story.

Did the mom make it? Does she have a job now? How are the kids? Did those people that were in ICU from that crash make it? How are they now? Can they work? Return to their every day lives? Are they struggling with a lifetime disability now? Did that man from the fire heal? How are his kids and wife? Did they emotionally survive through that? Did he?

I have questions people!!! I want to know the rest of the story. I hate being left hanging. It’s not a nosy thing, I sincerely care about the rest of the story. Maybe that’s the suiting title for this blog, (I’m STILL very new to this blog, I’m still building it’s name, another thing on my plate….) The Rest of the Story… that’d probably be copyright infringement though… Hmm. (If anyone has a chance to look into that, it’d be awesome! I don’t even know where to start with copyright laws)

I don’t even know where I’m going with this post. I don’t know where I’m going with a lot lately. I have a list of things rolling around in my head that I AM going to get to posting/doing.

  • Create a Facebook page for my blog so that we can connect on a deeper level, without “endangering” the privacy of my family and friends.
  • The follow up to that car of mine that went ker-plunk and dropped the last straw on my haystack of what else could possibly go wrong
  • Finding every single re-blog of my abortion post and jump in on the awesome conversations that I am very much missing out on.
  • Thinking of, creating, and implementing a logo for my blog
  • Visiting my mom, catching up, and requesting her permission to talk about a little bit of her story
  • Experiencing all of your blogs, in every sense of the word ‘experience’. Not just quickly gleaming over them to find something that I already expected to find, that we share enough of a common something that I want to follow you too.
  • Follow up on my abortion post, because it’s not over with just that post. But, don’t talk about just abortion and whoa is me, cause that gets old, FAST, for the writer and the reader.
  • What I’m going to say on Monday when I make my first “I Made It! Monday” post.
  • Cleaning my house. Doing some paying work. Spring cleaning a bunch of stuff we need to purge (yes, I know it’s fall, that’s kind of my point here!!)
  • Spending REAL time with my family. (My husband is so awesome, he has not said ONE word about me being lost in the blogging world.) But, he doesn’t have to say it to feel the repercussions of it, and I don’t need him to say it either, to know.

Like I said, I don’t really know where I’m going with this. I guess I just wanted to make sure that you all knew that I’m not going anywhere. (Ha. Ha. Obviously! That was a totally coincidental pun.) And… I needed to reach out for your help, because in the past, when I haven’t told anyone what was going on in my head, it kinda fucked me.

Bloggers, please tell me the secrets of your wise wisdom, gained from experience I have yet to (uh….) experience. How do you give your blog and your readers and everyone elses blogs the attention that they deserve, without losing your self in the mean time? How do you devote so much time, when there is paying work to be done, houses to clean, kids to spend time with, husbands to appreciate, even my dogs are feeling left out! If I could get paid to do this, oh it’d be heaven, but I don’t. How do all of you manage? How do all of you balance it all?

I don’t want to get lost in the crowd… or anywhere else….

P.S. This is the hint as to why I might not post for a day or two… or three, while I regain my footing. I can’t promise that I won’t, but if I don’t… I WILL be back! So, enjoy your commercial break… but don’t go running away on me!!! Lol.

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17 replies

  1. I get up at four in the mornin just to write then I can read and comment from my phone some during the day and in the evening so I am not hidden away at the computer. I also write ahead of time and schedule things to publish

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  2. Just take a deep breath, don’t let it become overwhelming and feel like a second job that takes the fun out of it. Got to take care of home stuff first and foremost, and gradually do all the things you hope to achieve with your blog. Just remember keep it as a fun hobby not a job!

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  3. Personally, I have a dedicated content calendar. I post 2x per day 2x per week – generally Wednesday & Friday. I post at 12:15p & 18:15p. My posting times are in NO way random but based on analysis and testing. I use CMR tools to schedule content manage my social media accounts tied to my blogs. I dedicate 2 hours 2x per week, typically on Tuesday & Thursday to respond to all emails and social media having to do with my blog(s).

    Just remember, you need to disconnect. There is life beyond a computer screen. While I am launching a blog and social media I really don’t adhere to a schedule as I put a majority of work into the launch. Within a couple weeks, your scheduling will manage the social media itself. Another thing I would suggest is use the schedule function for your posts on WordPress. That way, if you go on a writing binge one day you can get content for a week or more. That all just depends how often you want to commit to posting or if you choose to follow a dedicated content calendar.

    Hope this was somewhat helpful. But, hey I have a few screws loose.
    ~M

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  4. Sarah,

    Write for yourself. Period.

    You do not cater to your “audience” (that’s your first mistake) your audience comes to you BECAUSE you write for yourself. In the techy world I think they call it “oraganic development”, but the truth is you must write something worth reading or there IS no “audience. Thusly, you “get lost in the crowd”.

    Truth is sweetheart, your abortion posts are perfect examples of what I’m talking about.

    The world thirsts for truth. Let that be your next and only “writing prompt”. Ever.

    I’ll add only this one precaution to my advice; Those who speak or write the truth should expect to be in an extreme minority that will often be targeted for attacks and destruction. And you won’t be winning any “popularity” contests.

    Write for yourself anyway.

    Doc’ & CJ

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  5. Let God lead, your story is His anyway 🙂

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  6. Thank you guys! You have all been amazingly helpful. 🙂

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  7. I got fired on May 5th, 2014 so I got all the time to be on the internet?
    I think you can make money blogging? I am not sure. Janice Wald is the person to go to if you want to know more.
    And no worries about you know your worries visiting and or commenting. No hurries and no worries.
    I agree wholeheartedly with what garym6059 said. It’s gots to be fun.
    I’ll be back with a Janice Wald link.

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    • Hmm. I never thought to actually look into the reality of making money blogging. But, it’d have to be a can’t sell my soul typa thing. I blog cause I love it. It’d be awesome to make money doing what I love. Buuutttt, if the making the money is going to make me not love it anymore, it wouldn’t really be that worth it to me…. Definitely something I can look into more. And no worries about the link, I’ve got Google, and my curiosity beat ya anyways. lol 🙂 Thanks for the info!!

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  8. I don’t 😉 My author blog gets updated when I have something author-y to share, and while I *try* to post daily on my personal blog, I rarely make it, and often when I do they are quick, short “I got the paneling put up today! Yay me! Look at the cool pic of it!” posts. But then I also don’t have much of a readership on that blog because it’s not the one under my wordpress “name” (My author blog gets to do that) so… My advice, however, is to blog when you can, or when you feel inspired, or when you feel you *need* to and let the rest take care of itself. If you don;t have time to reply to every comment I doubt you’ll lose readers – and if you do they weren’t the loyal kind any. With a huge post you’ve probably got some bandwagoners on board who, no matter what you post, will drop off, so don’t worry about it too much. It’s just like a relationship – you don’t want to have to change who you are in order to fit into it. 😉

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  9. It’s been a year obviously? How are you doing? 🙂

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    • Wow! It has been a year, thank you for bringing this post back to my attention! My answer, like most writers is not a short one though. LOL. So, here goes….
      Pertaining to my list…
      Create a Facebook page for my blog so that we can connect on a deeper level, without “endangering” the privacy of my family and friends. (done.)
      The follow up to that car of mine that went ker-plunk and dropped the last straw on my haystack of what else could possibly go wrong. (done. amusingly enough, two cars later I had my all time FAVORITE suv… that was completely totaled 4 months after it’s purchase due to an accident that was no fault of my own. Definitely a lesson in what is temporary and what is not!)
      Finding every single re-blog of my abortion post and jump in on the awesome conversations that I am very much missing out on. (done.)
      Thinking of, creating, and implementing a logo for my blog (I did come up with a logo, but I never felt quite right establishing it. I just, I guess my blog is intended to be far more personal than the confines of a logo imply.)
      Visiting my mom, catching up, and requesting her permission to talk about a little bit of her story. (done. but visiting mom and catching up is once again on my checklist. I really need to work on making her more of a priority. I miss her so much when i don’t visit regularly. and time is precious!)
      Experiencing all of your blogs, in every sense of the word ‘experience’. Not just quickly gleaming over them to find something that I already expected to find, that we share enough of a common something that I want to follow you too. (i have found myself scrolling through WordPress reader much, much more frequently than I do FB’s newsfeed. Something I struggled with back then. Sometimes I get busy with life and “disappear” for a few months, but I no longer am so hard on myself about it. People have lives, and my blog is meant to prove exactly that! So, it only makes sense that I too fall victim of the mayhem.)
      Follow up on my abortion post, because it’s not over with just that post. But, don’t talk about just abortion and whoa is me, cause that gets old, FAST, for the writer and the reader. (WOW! I really remember this time for me. It was a real struggle moving past that post. That one post absolutely blew up my blog from a little 2 viewer per week to 40+ views in one day. I know, this is such small potatoes to many blogs, even my own now. But, it was a difficult time for me back then. I’m happy to announce that I’ve moved on, successfully and both I and my blog have grown immensely since this time!)
      What I’m going to say on Monday when I make my first “I Made It! Monday” post. (Haha. Oh the worries of yesterdays. They were so big back then, yet so small now. I made many, many “I made it Monday” posts since this day. Some serious. Some funny. Some inspiring. Some heart wrenching. I haven’t posted one in awhile though…. hmm….)
      Cleaning my house. Doing some paying work. Spring cleaning a bunch of stuff we need to purge (YES! House was cleaned… was. (lol). I am much better at keeping up on house work now. We also have a smaller house than we did, so that helps. I’ve learned that it is important that I treat my blog as it is meant to be, a hobby! For awhile back then my blog was top priority.. it was interfering with life as a whole. That’s just not healthy and would have lead to some real trouble! I’m happy to announce that I’ve found my happy medium. I love to blog, but it isn’t my main focus any longer.)
      Spending REAL time with my family. (My husband is so awesome, he has not said ONE word about me being lost in the blogging world.) But, he doesn’t have to say it to feel the repercussions of it, and I don’t need him to say it either, to know. (Good to go on this one as well! I didn’t really need to do too much. This item fell among that things that got re-ordered in my properly prioritizing. It really all hit home when almost a year ago my four year old made a “picture” of her mommmy. There I sat at a computer because, and I quote, “that’s what you love best mommy.” Talk about a SERIOUS wake up call!!!)

      Basically, it’s not so life and death anymore for me. I love my blog. I won’t lie. It IS my happy place. My home. My hobby. I love my readers and I love reading my blogger friends posts. But, it’s not the end of the world if I don’t get to it, or I don’t post for a bit, It was always, and still is, most important to me that I remain true to myself and that my readers enjoy coming to my blog because I’m real, not because I’m feeding them what I think they want to hear. Over time, that is exactly what it’s become, simply by doing what I naturally do. Ironically enough, all that hard work I was sweating over back then, wasn’t really work at all!! I built my name simply by not focusing on building my name…

      And thank you SO MUCH for checking in and bringing this post to my attention. It’s incredible what it does looking back over how far you have really came!!! That was a true gift!

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      • I loved reading your post in the first place, and I certainly did reading how far you have gone in a single year. I am fairly new to blogging (2 months), and my priority is writing what I like and connecting to the world to learn more. If others read my stuff and get inspired by it the better, my heart melts with joy ^_^. I am genuinely so happy for you and your achievements and I thank you for sharing. You just gave me a brilliant idea: this was like the follow up post. Writing a post with the set of goals with a one year “deadline” and remember (this one is a bit hard) to come back one year later and find out where you are at. 😀

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      • That is an awesome idea! Trying to create a “successful” (based on the individuals measure of success) really is overwhelming at first. I did a lot of Blogging U courses through WordPress that helped alot too. I did Blogging 101 and 102 and half of a writing 101 course (the other half is still pending. lol). They helped me explore the possibility of ideas and challenged me to write posts I may not have written otherwise. Just an idea if you’re interested. I look forward to reading your goals post and your follow up a year from now! Actually… that’s not really a bad idea to do every year… hmmm….

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